Relationships are tricky places to be in. Sometimes, it makes you feel like the happiest person in the world. And at other times, it spirals you back onto the ground and makes you wonder if you even want to be in one. Do you feel like you’re getting bored with your relationship?
Sometimes, these things just happen. But should it come as a surprise to you if you get bored in love? No. Almost always, boredom sets into a relationship because you didn’t do anything to prevent it.
You may be in love for a long time. For few, it may take months, and for many others, it may take a few years. But at some inevitable point in your love life, you may wonder if you’re really actually happy being in the relationship.
But before you actually go blaming love and its mysterious ways that led to the downfall of your present relationship, you need to ask yourself a few questions.
Why are you really bored? What do you want to do about it? And most importantly, what are the reasons behind why you got bored of your relationship?
Once you understand why you’re getting bored with your relationship, you can prevent it from ever happening again. And unless you truly understand the reasons behind the boredom, you’ll never really be able to enjoy a happy relationship without a bit of drama and boredom now and then
1. The daily routine
Your relationship is a boring routine. It’s completely predictable, and you know exactly what you’re going to do with each other every day of the week. When love starts to get monotonous, some of us can’t help but feel stifled like we’re stuck in a locked room.
2. The frenzied excitement
Do you remember the last time both of you did something exciting together? When we’re in a relationship for a long time, we start to take surprises and excitement for granted. If you’re getting bored because the relationship doesn’t excite you anymore, do something about it. Plan a vacation, go out for dinner once a week on a random day, just do something!
3. The fragile foundation
When two lovers fall in love, we always suggest that you take your time. Falling in love too quickly can build a romance on shaky grounds, especially if the reason both of you are together is because of one or two aspects, like great sex or a rebound relationship. Always take your time while dating someone before you fall in love or move in together.
4. Better opportunities
Everywhere you look around, you see better dating potentials. You like your partner a lot, but somewhere deep inside, you feel like you’ve got the short end of the stick and deserve someone better.
If you feel this way, you really have no choice but to let go because you’ll never be happy with this person you’re dating unless you feel like an equal. Break up, go out and have fun. You may meet someone you deserve, someone who’s way better than your current partner. But keep your fingers crossed though.
5. Emotional affairs
You may be having an emotional affair with a good friend or even a colleague at work, and not even know it! Do you find it easier to talk about your work or your personal problems with someone else but not with your partner? Unless you open up to your partner and communicate with them, you’d always feel disconnected and bored.
6. Sex is just boring
Yes, it’s true. Sex can get rather monotonous after a few years. But that doesn’t mean you can’t turn things around and bring the sizzle back in bed. If you find it more fun to think of excuses to avoid sex than actually have it, you’re more than just bored with your love life.
7. Special memories
Special memories are everything in a relationship, just like it is in life. When you look back at your life, you remember it by the happy memories you have. The more the memories you can think of, the better and more worthwhile your life would feel.
Love works the same way. If you stop creating excitement and fond memories all the time, you’ll have nothing that’ll make your love feel special and wonderful.