Right when you feel your relationship is heading to the next step, he starts to pull away, and you’re left wondering what went wrong.
When a man withdraws and pulls away most women want to know what’s going on and why, and how to figure it out.
You might want to analyze every single thing you could have said or done in an attempt to answer: “what are the exact reasons men pull away? Why do guys come on so strong at first and then pull away?”
There are two general reasons, and one doesn’t include you. He is either pulling away for reasons that have nothing to do with you and the relationship is fine, or things have gone sour and he requires some space.
For now, do not panic because any feelings of anxiety from you will make him pull away more regardless of his reason. Also remember, things could be perfectly fine right now. There is no need to rock the boat and tip things into bad territor.
However, these 3 ways below will help you in stopping a man from withdrawing in difficult times:
1. Calm down and realize that him pulling away is a totally natural thing
Even if a man is completely in love – it’s natural for him to drift away at times. There may be something he’s going through that you don’t know about, or he may be having a difficult time at work. The point is, you don’t know, and there is more going on in the world than just you. If you feel it in your gut that you guys are still close, give it the benefit of the doubt.
2. Create a desire in him to get close to you again
Like I said before, for most women, the reaction when a man is pulling away is to freak out and try to close the distance. This almost always backfires. Putting pressure onto the sitiuation is the last thing you should do.
When a woman chases after a man, she undermines his attempt to feel more independent. It can make him feel under scrutiny, and can take away any incentive he has to further the relationship by lowering your value and making you less attractive.
3. Communicate your feelings effectively
You have to be able to express this with words – not passive aggressive actions, and you have to be able to express how you’re feeling without blaming him for it. Never act like your running an interrogation, or like you are shaming him or belittling him. Always remain totally open and non-judgmental with whatever you are hearing.